How do I know?
Time and time again, not only have I brought through the names of beloved pets, but also their personality characteristics! I feel the energy of your animals as they connect with me. Also, many passed loved ones come through with a dog (or several) standing beside or crowding around them, or holding a kitty in their arms. One son came through with a ferret riding on his shoulder! I know our beloved pets are just beyond the veil, waiting to reunite with us. I recall one little West Highland White Terrier who was even able to share with me the “second name” his human mama called him, and with the help of this darling pooch, I was able to walk through this woman’s house and show her where his favorite areas were, at what time of day, and what he would do in each location! I had never heard about the “Rainbow Bridge” as a place where our animals greet us on the other side until I read about it years ago. It could metaphorically simply mean we have a special meeting place with our pets when we cross over. But as an evidential medium, I have never seen or felt our animal friends coming through from “a different place” than our family members and other passed dear ones. Perhaps some mediums have seen this bridge, yet I never have. I can tell you without a doubt, however, that we will be together again with our furry, feathered, scaly, slimy, you-name-it babies when we cross over one day. And personally? That Heavenly moment is the experience I most look forward to when my time comes to cross over.
Love truly never ends.
As much as this may sound like a common phrase spoken to a prospective romantic partner after an incredible first date, I am referring to a different type of relationship here. I am referring to the medium-client relationship. I understand the addiction. A reading, when we have that truly amazing connection with our loved ones on the other side, can leave a person spellbound. But a truly ethical medium will not encourage you to return anytime soon.
There are several reasons. First of all, seeking too many readings can be a distraction from one's grief. Sitting with a medium can indeed feel like partaking in an alternate reality. It's not that there is anything wrong with an occasional distraction from our sorrows and seeking some comfort. But a good reading can really feel like a true visit or reunion with our dear loved ones in Heaven, and during such visits, we can avoid dealing with the reality of the loss of their physical presence. There comes a time we need to really "be" with our grief, and adjust, the best we can, to the loss. Too many readings can interfere with a healthy healing and coping process. Seeking out connections through mediums can truly become an addiction and a way to avoid everyday "reality". The same could be said of psychic readings when we constantly seek help with life situations through psychic advice. Too many people stop trusting their inner guidance and put too much faith into the insight of a psychic. That's just not what we are here to do. Likewise, your spirit people on the other side want you to learn to sense, trust, and believe that they are still with you, and aware of your life. We need time to notice the signs. They emphasize that really living your life should not mean spending a lot of time seeking a connection with the deceased. You are not "bothering" them when having a reading. But they want what's best for your life, and repeatedly seeking out mediums is not of great benefit.
Another reason to allow a lot of time between readings is that those who seek out too many readings with a passed loved one in too short of time will often find the information coming through to seem more generalized, the pace too slow, or the connection not as powerful. I once was connecting parents with their adolescent son in spirit who had died in a skiing accident. Kids can typically connect very strongly, with their personalities apparent, sharing plenty of humor and undeniable evidence for their parents. My connection with this young spirit started strong, but seemed to fade very prematurely, so I asked him what was going on.
"My parents do this all of the time" he said.
I asked the parents if they had seen a medium before and they acknowledged they had. I asked them how many other times they have had readings, and the response was "a couple of times."
"Try 8 times!", their son shouted in my head.
I shared his words and both parents paused a moment, chuckled, and acknowledged that was an accurate statement, having had that number of readings in a mere 3 months' time.
The general rule I share with my clients is that if our session together is your first reading ever to connect with someone who has passed, you can probably have another in 4 to 6 months. But the general rule is to wait longer after each consecutive reading. If you want to have a third reading with me, or any other medium, you now should wait at least 9 to 12 months. If you receive a brief connection at an event, it is probably alright to schedule a private session shortly thereafter.
Most of all, I want you to know that you do not need a medium to connect with your loved ones in Heaven. They are always around you, connected through the bonds of love. They hear your words, your thoughts, and your prayers. They remain aware of your life. Learn to trust that when you suddenly think of them, they are saying hello. Trust that when you hear them in your head, that too is a hello. And when something happens and you wonder if it is a sign from someone in Heaven, the fact that you wondered means that yes, it is!
Many of us have been “sleepwalking” through life. We subjugate our own thoughts and objectivity to those we deem as wiser, more successful, or to “trending” thoughts, “causes” and ideas. We must recognize our own biases and over-reaching perceptions, their origins, and the way our past and our thought patterns serve–or do not serve–our Highest Good. In these times more than ever it is important we recognize, heal, and move beyond our wounds and embrace optimism to fully realize our inner strengths, and infinite potential.
If we all stood in our power we would have compassion for the wounded, and the hurting, and the victims…without having to relive and reignite any of our own past moments of pain and victimization. We would avoid being influenced by populace news and media encouraging us to revisit concern or create new concern, over pasts that we have successfully progressed beyond. If we have neither significantly struggled nor suffered, or fit into a category of the historically persecuted, it’s important we not feel any guilt or shame over being who we are today. We can embrace the heritage of our past without identifying with or holding onto the wounds of the past, or those who caused them. Perhaps we are folks with “non-eventful” lives or pasts; or we are among those who have overcome significant difficulties to be successful, independent-thinking adults. Maybe we just do not allow our struggles to define us. It’s okay to feel we have progressed beyond our pasts, and to feel that we have become strong and resilient. It’s okay to say we are okay with our personal history. When we stand in our power, we see life events objectively, and past events as whatever they were–possibly struggles, and perhaps worse–but in the past. We extract the lessons, and see the strengths; we see how we persevered and survived. Ideally, we are able to see people as people–as individuals–and we accept them without judgment on any level. We don’t see race, gender, financial status, power, or weakness. We see a person. As critical consumers of information, we are aware of the draw and pull of mass media, of celebrity, of “group think”. We realize the power of repetition upon the subconscious mind, and yet gratefully, we are able to observe from a detached and objective perspective; to see a larger view of the “themes” that are prevalent in news reporting, and any biases. When we stand solid in our personal awareness and power, we know it’s okay to be…”okay”. It’s okay to be in a good place, and it’s okay to not see threats at every turn. It’s not just okay, it’s healthy! When we stand in our power we recognize with concern the current popularity of embracing victim hood, and the current blanket denigration and vilification of those innocents who may resemble, in any way (whether through race, gender, spiritual beliefs, etc) those who committed wrongdoings in the past. We are being encouraged to gaze warily upon strength, wisdom, power and even wealth, or those who embody any definition of power or strength or financial success–traits that ideally would be sought after and celebrated. There seems to be a concerning push against unity and optimism. There is a popular effort to reshape the definition and perception of individual strength and power as threatening–as an enemy–as that to be feared. This comes as a threat to the strength and power of the individual, and individual thinking and decision making. Hold, embrace, and stand in your power as a unique individual. Be present. Be optimistic. Most importantly, be who you are and embrace your strength. It will serve you well.
Note: In addition to being an established and acclaimed Evidential Medium, Heather M Hunter MA holds a degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and continues to teach and speak about the important topics of personal empowerment, human potential, and “self-mastery”.
When I work with clients in a private mediumship session, some will want to ask questions about their life direction and are seeking some intuitive insight. I often encourage my clients to trust in “Divine timing.” What exactly does that mean?
As human beings, we often have set ideas in our mind about when things should happen–and even how. When things do not go the way we had planned or envisioned we may get discouraged, or even downright depressed depending on the circumstances and our individual personalities and patterns. We often get timelines in our minds about things such as being married or having children by a certain age. Or perhaps we have a certain salary in our head that we should be earning by the time we reach a certain age. We have a lot of “shoulds” in our minds–whether conscious or unconscious. As I’ve heard it said, we need to stop “shoulding” all over ourselves!
We naturally derive such ideas for our lives through our own family members–either the way they themselves have lived or are living, or by what they tell us we “should” (there’s that word again!) be doing. And let’s admit it, many of us are molded and influenced for better or worse by the omnipresent media stories and images–of people doing, achieving, and “being.” These people, mind you, often live in a rather isolated reality that is nothing like what the majority of us have ever experienced. They are famous, wealthy, privileged, or being raised by family members who are those things. But if we can’t gauge our progress or success by those around us, how do we get a sense that we are on the right track?
This is where developing our own “inner compass” comes into play. We need to get a better sense of who we are as unique individuals–souls–with a unique path, purpose, and desire. After all “success” is a very subjective term, and to think we are all content or happy with the same kinds of lives is silly. We need to allow ourselves to view what seem like “mistakes” as part of our soul journey, and try to learn from them instead of dwelling upon or beating ourselves up over them. But most of all, we need to TRUST that God/Universe/Source has a greater plan for us than our current struggles. When we begin to trust that things are unfolding as they are meant to for us, we are more tolerant of what may seem like “obstacles” on our paths. It’s often the case that we are not being “held back” from something we desire; we are instead being “redirected” and placed on a path to something that will ultimately be much more rewarding–but we can’t see that yet. If we accept that what we want will come in “Divine timing” we can more easily go with the flow and enjoy life–one day at a time.
We often don’t see or feel how Spirit is working in our lives when we are in the midst of stress or sorrow. I am my own case in point. I have felt my mother’s presence more than usual lately, not really knowing why. Our sweet little Lemon Beagle Tinkerbell has had health challenges most of her life. We noticed a significant decline over the past few months and suddenly she seemed particularly distressed.The other night, I stayed up with her late into the evening. As I sat with her, prayed, and comforted her, I became aware of movement and shadows out of the corner of my eye. I strongly felt my mother in Spirit near me. The next morning before heading to the vet I felt compelled to post a video on my Facebook Page about a Spirit cat in Heaven talking to her “mom” from the Rainbow Bridge–the place our pets in Spirit meet us when we cross over. I was not even thinking about the imminent possibility of our own dog crossing over. During the vet visit I saw via Xrays that our poor little dog was filled with cancer, along with other issues. It was clear her precious days were numbered. I was devastated. However as I look back on what I had been experiencing during Tinkerbell’s last couple of weeks here in the physical realm, I can say with certainty I was receiving comfort and reassurance from the Spirit Realm. We are never truly alone. Blessings, ~Heather
Is your family feuding because you could not agree on where or how to bury a family member after their passing? Are you bitter over who got what, and other disagreements over assets, funerals, and what you think the passed loved one would have wanted?
Guess what? They know. They know about your fighting and who got what, and what happened (or didn’t) at their funeral or memorial service or celebration. The good, the not-so-good, and the sometimes downright ugly. Yes, they may talk about it. But I have to tell you, if you think they are going to come through and tell you to do anything about it, they won’t. At least, I’ve never heard that from Spirit. Most often, they say they are sad or disappointed over everyone’s fighting. The want people to heal, and make amends. They have lost all attachment to their “things” and the machinations of everyday life and funeral proceedings and so on. But they know who went out of their way to help. They know who comforted others, and who was rude. They know who stole from the family, and who made sacrifices. So, it’s up to us to be okay with things, make them right if need be, and move forward. Everything balances eventually, whether that happens here or in the Afterlife.
With love and blessings,